Significant others often question our happiness. "Do I make you happy?" "Are you happy in our relationship." "You don't seem happy." Blah blah blah. Reality is no one is ever happy all the time and expecting you to be happy all the time is unrealistic and slightly annoying.
When assessing you partners disposition of your relationship do not ask whether or not they are happy, ask whether or not they wake up each morning with a sense of joy. A relationship worth being in is not one that makes you happy, but one that brings you joy. Joy is a concrete foundation that is not swayed by emotion.
Happiness is an emotion. A person's happiness will change from day to day; minute by minute. Things as small as coming home to a clean house can make them happy and something as insignificant as having to remind someone to take out the trash, for the second time, can make them unhappy.
People can experience happiness, frustration, sadness, etc... all in one day, but if they have joy in their life they will be content in any situation. Joy is the spark in all relationships worth investing your time and energy into. Joy will keep things burning even when the infallibility of our emotional state makes us think that things are starting to fizzle out. It will give us the energy to work through everything and have a relationship that will last a lifetime not a few years.
The next time you decide to question your partners happiness do not ask them if they are happy, but ask them if they woke up this morning feeling joyful.
About Me
- Laura
- CSUS, Alumni 2009: BA English Through a series of my own ruined relationships, and observing my family and friends failed relationships, I have been able to establish an concrete sense of what works and what doesn't. I would like to share with everyone the wisdom I have attained in hope the they will be able to find harmony in their own relationships.
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