Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Earlier today, I came across an article written about keeping the romance alive in relationships. The first bit of advice they gave was to tell your significant other that you love them at least once a day. It advised that a person should do it even if they do not have the time to say it their face, i.e. doing it through a text message or a phone call. While this is good advice for a new relationship, after a while saying, or texting, I love you just to say it is counterproductive.


Actions speak louder than words. Simply saying I love is not enough to make a person feel wanted. On the contrary, when a relationship hits the six-month mark saying I love you becomes repetitive and mundane. I am sure all of us have been in a relationship where, “I love you” is shortly followed by “Why?” Your significant other is asking “why” because your actions do not match up to what you are saying. “You love me, but you would rather be with your friends on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday?” “You love me but when we go to rent movies we always have to watch what you want to watch.”

Moreover saying I love you is an objective statement. Next time you get the urge to tell your significant other the L-word, really think about what you are saying. Make you act of love specific to the individual. Statements made specifically for him or her have more meaning and credibility. If your schedule is so busy that you have to text them or call them, as oppossed to saying it to their face, tell them exactly what you miss about them, or why you love them. For example: “I cannot wait to watch a movie with you tonight,” “I miss my best friend,” “Friday date night could not come soon enough,” “I look forward to our evening walks,”etc…People are good at sorting out the bullshit from the truth. Simply saying I love is not enough to bring the spark back into a relationship, especially if you are saying it because you think it is the appropriate thing to do.

Automatically people think that it takes to much work to show their significant other that they love them;  that there are not enough hours in the day to make time to show them that they love them, but this is incorrect. I had a boyfriend once who loved red toe nail polish, which I absolutely hated, but I started to make sure that I painted me toes red. Silly, right? Wrong it showed that I cared about him and wanted to consider his needs; painting my toenails red was a small sacrifice to show him that I loved him. And let's face it, the color kind of grew on me and the smile on his face everytime he saw my newly polished toenails made me just as happy as it nade him. 

When you ‘love’ a person you should know them inside and out, and know what it takes to show you, not only care, but that you appreciate them as a person and as your companion. Things like taking out the trash without being asked, or making sure dirty dishes are not left in the sink is enough to express your love, and when that person thanks you for doing those things, this is the time to tell them “I do it because I love you.”